What exactly determines friendship? Someone that you’ve known since middle school? That guy you sat next to in Public Speaking freshman year and still see on Facebook but never talk? That girl whose name you can’t remember even though you sit next to her every MWF at Camp Gladiator? What about a person who writes a blog that you’ve been following for years but have never met? What establishes a friendship, what are the guidelines?
You see, before this blog I had another one that I deleted because it was three years since my last post. Even though I was no longer writing about my life, I still followed blogs. I have been a very loyal follower of a few and I came to see the writers of those blogs as my friends. I’ve watched them get married, throw parties/showers for one another, change jobs, experience loss, have babies, move across the US, and create lasting memories. I have cried and prayed for them when they went through difficult times and celebrated (and commented under anonymous) when something joyous happened. For five years I have read about my “friends” lives. I know that might seem strange, but they are putting their business out there for us to read and that’s just what I did.
I can remember one time one of the bloggers gave birth but they didn’t have a name picked out when the baby was born. I checked her blog every two hours to see what they named him. I wanted to know what my “friend” was naming her baby because I was there with her during the whole pregnancy. That’s not weird, right? I also voted like crazy for this other blogger so she could go on a fully paid mission trip to Uganda. Like refreshing the browser every 15 seconds for the last hour of the contest so she could get the votes she needed. She eventually got the top 3 but did not end up as the final winner. I cried. She wanted it so badly to spread the gospel to the people of Uganda and I wanted to help my “friend.”
So just because I haven’t met these bloggers, does that mean we are not friends? Do you have to have conversation with a person to be friends? The way I see it, they are having a conversation with me through posts and pictures and sharing their life with me. Even though these bloggers do not know me personally, I still think of them as my friends. Does this make me creepy? Well, yeah maybe. People would laugh at me calling these bloggers my friends but I consider them to be, more than that guy I sat next to in Public Speaking freshman year.
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